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I was pressured into unprotected sex, IM FREAKING 12?
February 08th, 2012
Posted by Dr.SkinCare
There’s a boy i really liked and the mood just kind of went like that. Please don’t ask why it happened or say im a whore or anything I feel really bad and can hardly eat after this. But the first time he came outside on my "place" and i wiped it off, then after he pressured me to do it again and my feeling for him took over and i don’t think he wiped the sperm off after the first time (about 2-3 hours ago) and it didn’t last long because his mom called him. Is there any chance i could be pregnant?
I just had my period end a couple of days ago, and don’t say a test because i don’t want my mom to know.
And what should I do to calm my nerves? I really don’t know what to do , i feel sick knowing i couldn’t hold onto my virginity till i was at least like 18Yes, it is possible you could be pregnant.
If this happened withing the last day or two, you may be able to use the morning after pill (Plan B) to stop pregnancy from occurring. Since you are under 18, you will need a doctor’s prescription. If there is a Planned Parenthood near you, you should contact them and see if they are able to provide you with Plan B for a small fee. Be aware that Plan B may prevent a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterus and that some people view this as a form of abortion.
If this happened more than a couple of days ago, your only option is to wait and see if you get your next period. If your period doesn’t come within a month or so after having sex, you need to take a pregnancy test. If you have any money and a way to a supermarket or drug store, you can buy one without your mother knowing.
You also will need to see the doctor. Once you become sexually active, you need to get yearly gynecological exams to check for cervical cancer and sexually transmitted diseases. You can fake sick in order to get your mother to make you a doctor’s appointment, and then go into the room alone and explain your problem. They probably won’t tell your mother about it. Or, if there is a Planned Parenthood near you and you have some cash, they will give you a low cost exam.
If in a month, you were unable to purchase a pregnancy test and still haven’t gotten your period, you can use the same method to get to the doctor and have them give you a pregnancy test.
If you are pregnant, you have three choices. You can have an abortion, put the baby up for adoption, or keep the baby and raise it yourself. At twelve years old, you probably do not want to raise a child. Abortion is a very personal issue, and the only person who can decide if you should have one is you. Adoption comes in two forms open and closed. In closed adoption, you give your baby up and will not see them again unless they choose to contact you when they are eighteen. In open adoption, you give your baby up, but you generally recieve pictures and letters from the adoptive parents, and may even get to see the child.
If you are pregnant, irregardless of what you choose, you will need to tell your parents. Many states require parental notification of abortion and in the ones that don’t you probably will not be able to afford it on your own. If you plan to give birth, your parents will notice the pregnancy. Enlisting the help of a school counselor, church official, or favorite aunt may make it easier.
As soon as possible, you should purchase a pack of condoms and carry them around with you. It is much easier to have sex the second time than it is the first (because you are no longer concerned with your virginity).
If the boy was significantly older than you, he likely commited a crime, and you should tell someone about it. If he was a lot older than you, your parents will probably be more upset with him than they are with you.
Having sex was an adult decision and it has adult consequences. Unfortunately, you are not yet an adult, and are likely unable to deal with the consequences yourself.
It would probably help if you could find someone to confide in who will not tell your parents (a school counselor probably will, considering your age). Most girls, however, do not wait until they are eighteen to have sex (I was fifteen).
This is not the end of the world. You will get through it, but your life may change because of it.This does not make you a whore. What this boy did was actually rape. It is not your fault at all.
You probably shouldn’t see him again, but if you don’t want to cut him off you MUST make it clear that you do not want to have sex with him any more, or at least not without a condom.
You are well within your rights to go to the police about this. Do not let yourself be pressured into anything you don’t want to do. Even if you’re of age, being pressured into sex is still rape.yes you could be pregnant you don’t even need him to be inside of you, and don’t say not to suggest a test as your mum will for sure figure out when your giving birth don’t you think.
you can buy a test yourself at a pharmacy or supermarket, but you must wait a month.
You need to go speak to a school councillor about what happened, and they dont have to tell anyone, but just to talk for starterssperm does NOT live for 7 days inside your body (72 hours at the most), as for whether or not you are pregnant, you’ll have to wait until time for your next cycle, chances are unlikely, but it can still happenif you’re having a regular period then i don’t think you’ll pregnant..5days after your menstruation(period) is normally considered as safe period..6-12days after menstruation are fertile period and possibility of pregnant is higher during that period of time50/50 shot of being pregnant. You could wait until your next cycle is suppose to end. However, if you don’t have your period within 2 weeks of that date then you better talk to someone about getting a test.chance is always there…but you aren’t in your Fertile days…so i really doubt you would be…its harder to get pregnant than you think!…don’t worry about it….don’t stress deffinatly….just go with the flow..and pray to God!hmm…
u could be pregnant but i doubt he would have left sperm on him for hours…
next time stick to your ground and dont do the stupid thing..
simple.sperm lives on your body for 7days so you might want to take a pregnancy test Wow….. if I were u I would’ve slapped that boy up side the head! And I think that’s what you need to do. I don’t blame you for being pressured but if you knew what you were doing then you were taking responsibility for it. But really, don’t just break up wit that guy, beat him up and I mean it. And yeah I’m 12 too. But still…..
Well don’t tell your mom YET but just wait a while. If your period doesn’t come in about 1 month then this is what u do
1. Kick the guys a**
2. Buy or steal a test thingy
3. if ur pregnant tell ur mom
but have a nice chat with her
4. kick the guys a** again haha
Oh and plz don’t tell me ur lying.
4. don’t tellIt’s certainly a very tough situation if you’ve lost your virginity at an early age… but first off, the most important thing is to not feel pressured, the situation isn’t as bad as you think. If you don’t want your parents to know, they don’t have to, there are easy ways to get a free STD scanning test or a pregnancy test. Any drugstore like Bartel’s or something like that will almost always have a pregnancy test that you can take.
I’d be more concerned with the presence of STDs. There are many teen clinics that will perform STD scans for free… if you again don’t want to take the matter up with a parent, I advise you to talk to the nurse at your school or a counselor, I can guarantee you that they won’t tell your folks if you don’t want them to. They can direct you to a teen health clinic where you can get all of these tests for free.
Finally, if you don’t want to have sex with him, tell him NO. It’s a hard word to say, but it has to be done, because you can only be lucky so many times… at the very least, make sure he wears a condom, but sometimes condoms can break too, so I suggest you just stay away from that activity altogether until you’re at an age that you feel responsible enough.
Hope this all helped!well all girls ovulate differently so im suggesting a pregnancy test cuz girl once sprem touches your vagina it swims up so theres a possibility that it went inside even thought you guys wiped it off.
or else wait until your next period come you will probably get a little late since it was Your first time..but if you don’t get your period your going to have to go for a pregnancy test just buy it and take it in school your mom doesn’t have to know…by the way calm down cuz then your moms going to suspect somethingSweetie, you need to be careful. Don’t EVER let anybody pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do, especially when it comes to sex. Be confident and just say NO. If he doesn’t respect that, then he doesn’t love you. If you do get pregnant (I really hope you don’t), he probably won’t even take responsibility for the baby. So why suffer for him? He ain’t worth it. You’re still very young and there are going to be plenty of other guys who will love you and cherish you for YOU, not sex.you should talk to an adult that you can trust. at your age having sex at your age leads to a very bad mentally bad life. there is a reason you gave in to having sex at a young age find out. Ok, first off relax, as there’s next to no chance that you’re pregnant as you don’t become fertile until about 2 weeks after your period starts. If you really feel nervous about it, you could go to your doctor, or health clinic and ask for the "morning after pill" as a fail-safe option. You can take this up to 72 hours (3 days) after you have unprotected sex, but I would dare to suggest that you actually don’t need it (your fertile days are days 10-16 of your cycle, approximately, with Day 1 being the first day of your period).
You still need to get yourself tested for any Sexually Transmitted Infections as you had sex without a condom. Most of these can be tested by a simple blood test. If they do need to do an internal exam, just relax and go with it. It takes 3 minutes approximately and it’s vital – you just don’t know what this guy might carry and several STI’s don’t have any symptoms so even the guy won’t know he has anything.
Don’t beat yourself up about not staying a virgin until your 18. You can be as sensible, as well informed as you like, and as intelligent as anything, and you can still get caught up in your emotions for the boy, the heat of the moment etc. I had 2 AIDS tests in my life and I was a "sensible" girl! What you need to do is learn from the past. Make sure your man ALWAYS wears a condom – some men are b***ards and try to make excuses for not wearing a condom – there are NO excuses. Make sure your man loves you for you, not because he can sleep with you (it isn’t always easy to tell!). Be very careful of being manipulated by a guy telling you what you want to hear (eg. that he loves you, you’re his only girl, etc). It takes some experience to distinguish between the ones who are truthful from the liars. I’ve found that the ones who tell you they love you very quickly are the ones to avoid. It’s the ones who take a while to tell you they love you that generally turn out to be the keepers.
Best of luck hon. For future use, if a guy cums ANYWHERE near your vagina, and you’re not on the pill, you can get pregnant. Sperm are damn cunning and can swim up the vagina from the outside, to your egg and you can get pregnant. So it’s imperative that you always make the guy wear a condom, and that he only cums in the condom. Men have "pre-***" which they often don’t even feel, so keep it wrapped at all times when you’re close to having sex. Take care 
You really shouldn’t be doing that at twelve.
You should know that even though you love him you shouldn’t do these things until you are older.
Bad things can happen like you can get pregnant, and because you are really young, he could leave you easy and you’ll also have to tell your parents.
But best thing is to think on the positive side I guess.
You’ll need to wait a little bit and see if you get the symptoms of pregnancy.
Here are some examples:
- Your breasts will hurt to an extent you may want to take your bra off
- Morning sickness
- Amenorrhea (no mense)
- Abdominal swelling
I hope you’re not pregnant, but most of all I hope you have learnt your lesson. Please be more careful.
Hope I helped.sound like your pregnant but try pregnancy test first.. next time girl your too young for this think first before u do it. i lost my virginity at 12 too. but lucky i didnt get the girl pregnant wewt coz i know wat im doing so careful next time. hope this help…
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